When a friend texted me that she was thinking to quit her current job and move to other company I told her to go for it. I know that she has been longing for a better salary and better opportunity and I think the only way she can get it is by changing her workplace. Not that the current one is bad but I believe opportunities are laying around waiting for her to grab them. All she needs to have is courage. Besides this wasn’t the first time she came forward to me with that particular thought.
I asked her what she was afraid of. She replied “the new environment and the adjusting process.”
I understand what this comes from. Having been in the same workplace for almost a decade now, or maybe more, she has become very comfortable in her current role. Hence the idea of getting into a new place, to start a new role, kind of freaks her out. I am sure she is not alone on this.
How many of you who shiver when hear the word “changes”? It is the fear of unknown. Most people are afraid of changes because no one ever knows what lies at the end of it.
Will it be good?
Will it be bad?
Will it make me happy?
Will it make me mad?
Will it kill me?
And all other crazy questions that hover in our mind when we have to deal with changes.
I have had enough experience trying to convince people for a change and only got resentments because they ‘have been doing it for ages and never a problem occurred’. For instance when J (who is an engineer and whose one of responsibilities at work is to maintain Heating Ventilation and Air Conditioner) tried to advise my mom that she had better shut the door and window when she was turning on the AC because if she left them open it would make the AC works twice harder than it’s capacity and would break it down sooner than later. My mom answered with the usual “oh I have been doing it like forever and my AC is just fine”.
I think I am so thankful for the fact there are indeed some crazy people who are bravely enough (or should I say are nuts enough?), for example, to think that although candle provided good light a lamp would do it better; or although writing a message in a letter and having it sent by the postman was never an issue a telephone would deliver the message faster; or even though the horse carts served its purpose well a car with four wheels and an engine could make life easier. Last but not least I am glad that the late Mr. Arch West had found Doritos and decided it was worth-trying to sell it to the market despite so many awesome chips were competing.
Changes are about taking one step away from your comfort zone. If you feel that there is nothing to change in your life so be it. But sometimes changes come without the drum rolls. Hence although we seem to never really be prepared enough for changes we have to be ready.
If you are facing a decision-making that will change your life either partly or completely of course you need to make some serious thinking about it. But never put your fear gets in your way. Perhaps another friend of mine can put the words in better sense:
It is better to fight and then regret, rather than to regret that you have never fought for it
Yes, it will be even way better if no regret at all. But hey, life doesn’t always give you what you want, right?
Just remember one thing that whatever changes you are going to make it should always for the better and happier version of you.