When I was a little I had a classmate who sat right next to me and wouldn’t stop bugging me. We used to fight a lot. Hit each other’s back; stabbed pencil on each other’s arm; and more. We would tell our teacher in turn who did what first until one day, our teacher had it enough she firmly told us “be nice to each other! you could probably marry each other in the future!”. Honestly I didn’t really understand what marriage was then but I knew I wouldn’t want to have that with him. So the fighting stopped.
That episode still plays in my head, especially when someone pushes my button and I feel like turning into a nightmare for that person.
I know being nice sometimes is almost impossible. Not everyone is nice to you and there would be time when despite your nice-ness they just don’t give it a damn. I have been there so many times. As matter of fact I can still recall who has done something bad to me; not that I am keeping a grudge…it’s just that I easily forgive but am not a forgetful.
This brings me to the ultimate reason why you should be nice to your colleagues.
Few weeks ago a close friend called me. She mentioned a name and asked “did you know her?”. Oh yes I did. She was an old colleague, one of the kind because I knew she was almost never being nice to me. She smirked not smiled and many times tried to put me down or put me in trouble. Who would know, fast forwarded to this day her career path could hang on me. That close friend of mine asked my opinion about this old colleague as she was applying a job to my friend’s workplace.
My evil side has showed up…by giving her my OPINION about the old colleague. But then my sanity took offer and I told her how she did professional wise. Last week, again I got called still being asked about this person. This time I redirected them to the right person who I thought would be giving fairer reference than myself. How nice right?
So, yes..no matter how pain in the ass your colleague is don’t pick up a fight and don’t try to be a bitch..at least don’t let her know that you have been bitching about her behind her back (ha ha..) because in future you’ll never know. She would have been your boss or a person who opens/closes the gate to your future career.
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