I was so delighted today to follow (on and off) this long ‘heated’ discussion over at Cafe Mom with classical topic: SAHM vs WM. It has been unnecessarily a long debate in the whole universe about who’s better than whom. I do believe both SAHM and WM deserve their own place in this world and no one should look down upon another. But of course, life is not alive until argument is there.
The discussion was started with a sort of whining, throwing a kind of rhetorical question “what is wrong with being a SAHM?”. The woman who posted this was apparently believed by the majority of the audience that she had implied in her post WMs were a degrading value and moral in a family. This was posted by a woman who had been in SAHM shoes for the past 3 months.
And I totally got her. I have been there done that. Three months after quitting a job to become a SAHM is the critical period. It is the period when she feels like loosing the control of her life that she is now relying on her husband for almost every aspect of it. She feels like loosing her own identity. I know because it happened to me. I got dysfunctional bleeding during that transition period for God sake!
Thus, during that time a new SAHM may feel that the whole world is against her. Now that she doesn’t have her career no more, probably not even her name card, she feels empty and starts being paranoid about people around her. Sure, after time this feeling will disappear but before that happens, it will be a long boring and exhausting months all in all.
I had been a WM, SAHM, WAHM and now I am back to WM shoes. I enjoy every moment of it! After all life is already complicated enough, so this WM – SAHM – WAHM thingy should not stop the universe from rotating and make things even more complicated.
Life is indeed an apple crumble tart. Easy to crumble, but it has the crunchy strong base to hold it and even when it finally falls apart as you cut it for a bite or two, it tastes delicious because you enjoy every single piece of it.
That is how you should perceive life. I guess.