A very good friend of mine just came back from her love venture in other city. And no, she is not single. I never understand her stance with the husband because she has got so much freedom in her hand that I wonder what is going on between the two. But who am I to judge?
At some point she told me that if she ever found a better man, which would mean better for everything (looks, money, and all), she probably wouldn’t hesitate to give up on her marriage. So I asked her a simple question, “what if he left you first?”.
Marriage. A never ending journey of compassion, understanding and caring. It’s a boat with one captain and a navigator. The captain may decide for everything, but the navigator guide him for direction. Isn’t it?
I have read a story, about a wife who would only give her man 10 forgivable mistakes. Yet they lived long happily together. Someone asked what her secret was. Was her husband so kind and perfect that he had never done anything wrong for the whole life? Her answer was simple, “every time my husband did something wrong I told myself this would be one of the 10 forgivable mistakes I allowed him for”.
When things are not going into where we want them to be, it is easy to put the blame on the other side. Maybe we are often too caught up with our own ego, thinking that we own the world when matter of fact we are just another human being craving for love. We are so desperate to find love outside that we forget…..that what we are looking for is actually already inside.
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
? Friedrich Nietzsche